As I’ve mentioned before I’ve been on this weight loss roller coaster for a long time. I also have a lot of friends and family members that need to lose some weight but they need to want to change. This has been the hardest thing for me to grasp. I have reached out and giving people some of what I’ve learned over the years and I am met with with either a person wanting to know more information or a person that thinks they have everything under control. I was watching extreme makeover weight loss edition last night (I’m a little behind but I have everyone on my PVR) and Chris Powell did something I though was amazing. He gave the participant Jayce a chance to pay it forward and gave him a certificate to give to one of his friends to go to bootcamp. Now when that happened I’m not gonna lie I wish I knew Jayce personally so he could pay it forward to me lol. But my second though was who would I pay it forward to and I couldn’t come up with an answer because I could not figure out who would want this amazing gift. A list of people I know that need to get healthy came to mind but who could handle the pressure and the pain of bootcamp I was drawing a blank. Now for all of you reading this it doesn’t mean I don’t think your committed to your health goals I’m just not sure if you would want this gift.
Would you want this as a gift or a pay it forward? I’m a hell yes right away but I’ve also been struggling with my weight for years.
The hardest thing about loving people and wanting them to be healthy is the fine line between encouraging them and harassing them about their health. You might mean well when you mention this or that but how their internal dialogue is that day, month or minute can make the difference between them hearing what you are saying and them feeling attacked.
I guess as a closing I feel the need to say that you need to be selfish when it comes to weight loss. You can’t get hung up on the people that don’t want help but you should focus on your journey. What you need and want. Sometimes that means friendships and relationships change but you need to do what’s right for you.